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An overnight guest of the most lovely variety – wet nursing and tandem feeding

These photos popped up on my newsfeed this week and brought back some lovely memories which I thought I would share. I have discussed in the past, would I feed another mothers baby, yes I thought. On this particular day, I got to my phone to missed calls from a friend of mine, and a text asking me to collect her baby from the hospital where she was having to overnight with her toddler. In Read more…

This is NOT informed consent.

This is not informed consent, its a chart. Based on some recent experiences I have been left feeling somewhat unhappy with the way I watch birthing and pregnant women treated. The headline picture, that is not either informed consent or individualised care, it is a chart. Sometimes I take more care in explaining to my 3 year old why he can’t have a chocolate bar, than I see grown women being given in the important Read more…

You Can Dance Your Way Through Birth

However it unfolds the dance of birth will follow its tune. You can birth your baby in the way best for you. I was chatting to my friend Louise about my views around childbirth being a dance between mother and baby, when she casually mentioned that she had some photos taken at 36 weeks. I asked her to send them to me and she did, along with her words about her birth. Never one to Read more…

You are not a “Good Girl” – Birth, Language and Doulas

Birthing women are not children, they are not 5 years old or 10 or 15, and if they are teenagers, they are at this point in time transitioning very rapidly into womanhood. This is not a good girl either – she is a feisty child with her own mind and her own feelings. She would not accept mistreatment without complaint, she knows she deserves respect. She demands to be spoken to kindly, with love, as Read more…

Doula Training In And Around Cardiff and South Wales

Many of the Doula UK training providers are happy to come to South Wales and run training courses.  This includes Nurturing Birth, Developing Doulas, Conscious Birthing (my trainer) and Younique Postnatal. Who you choose as your training provider is a very important decision and one you should thoroughly research. Doula UK is the largest Doula organisation in the UK and regionally in South Wales. For this and many other reasons , I do not recommend providers Read more…

Book Review: Men, Love and Birth – Mark Harris

What a refreshing, amusing, powerful book and great addition to the birthing scene. I don’t actually want to write too much about this book as it contains quite a few surprises. I will say if you are a birthing woman – don’t read it. Get it for your “lover” and let him read it, then sit back and let him surprise you in many small ways. Click HERE for more information on National and Local Read more…

International Women’s Day, Riverfront, Newport, March 2016.

Having come back from this International Womens Day event, at the Riverfront, I am all fired up. It was a beautiful emotional day and it made for me crystal clear, something that I already knew, at the moment, women should be able to own their bodies and their births, without argument and coercion, but they do not. I came away wanting to support women to have the positive births they have a right to and Read more…

Creating Your Positive Birth – Birth Preparation Days, South Wales

This exciting new addition to the birth scene in South Wales has been a year in the preparation. Using a variety of mediums, we will prepare for your birth. This workshop can work as a completely stand alone ante natal session or as a perfect complement to your NCT, Daisy Birthing, Hypnobirthing or NHS classes. You will come away inspired, informed and ready to have the positive birth you want and deserve, wherever and however Read more…

AIMS – Am I Allowed Book Review

Absolutely essential reading for any birthing woman and her birth partner. AIMS – Association for Improvements in the Maternity Services. An organisation that their website says “AIMS … at the forefront of the childbirth movement for more than fifty years. Working towards normal birth Providing independent support and information about maternity choices Raising awareness of current research on childbirth and related issues Protecting women’s human rights in childbirth They do all these things and they Read more…

The Beautiful Home Birth With Gestational Diabetes of Regina Yujia Bai

This is a guest blog post from Regina Yujia Bai. It tells the story of her beautiful home birth after a diagnosis of Gestational Diabetes and of tandem nursing her new born and toddler. It is very unusual to hear Home Birth and Gestation Diabetes in the same sentence, so when Regina posted her story in the Home Birth Group UK I co-admin I asked her if I could share it as it is something Read more…

Samantha Gadsden, works as a national virtual doula, supporting in person across South Wales and the South West.

She walks with women on their journey's through life. She is a feminist, a birth educator and listener, a doula, a believer in and supporter of women and lives living just outside Caerphilly in the South Wales Valleys with her husband Eddie and her 3 younger children.