What is a Doula? What do they do?
That is indeed a really hard question. Here are some definitions I found on Google.
This doesn’t really explain – so I made my own definition.
But this doesn’t really explain either.
There are many types of doulas, for me a doula is someone who is “with woman”, the main focus of my work focuses on conception, sometimes preconception, through to raising children, but I support woman at many stages, during happy and joyous times and times of deep trauma and sadness.
I provide support to women and families who want to have children, I hold their hands when they give birth, I help them to enjoy the post natal period, I support them through raising their children in my positive parenting group.
I have supported women post loss, post termination who felt they didn’t “deserve” to have another baby, punishing themselves emotionally for events in the past.
Nothing can explain that I had a 6th sense during the “Beast From The East“, that my client, who was showing no signs of giving birth, was about to go in labour, meaning that I got in a strangers 4*4 and slept there the night, so she and her partner wouldn’t be alone.
No definition can explain me running out into the street when I saw a gritter in it and asking the driver and crew to dig out a path to her house, so that we could get out if we needed to.
I can’t find a summary to show how my gut feeling was right and she went into full, active labour at 6 am, while I held her hands, supported her partner, spoke to the 999 operator and remained in the house with their other child as she went in.
Nothing can show arranging for a 4*4 to pick up the father from hospital when he was ready.
But this is what I do – expect the unexpected.
I also do ante natal education including 121, birth trauma work, loss support, post natal work, occasional baby sitting and anything that involves supporting women.
I literally do anything and everything you can think a family might need, from the moment there is even the thought they may have a baby, be that a first baby, a 3rd baby or a fifth baby, through to when they are self sufficient and feel they don’t need my additional support any more (except ironing – I hate ironing), as well as running a Positive Parenting Group for parents of children of all ages.
Samantha Gadsden walks with women on their life’s journeys. She is an experienced Doula, based close to Cardiff in South Wales, mother to 4 children and wife to Eddie, more information can be found on her facebook page, Samantha Gadsden Doula and her website, Caerphilly Doula.
If you are interested in writing a guest blog or sharing a life or birth story please feel free to contact her HERE.
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